Time for school…and a whole new way of things

It’s that time of year, school has started and the buses are rolling and the kids are suspiciously silent between 8-3. Wee man is almost 4 and we registered him for pre-school.  During the registration, the people indicated that he might not be eligible this year for school. So I made LOTS of plans to homeschool him through his pre-school years and then send him on for kindergarten.  I also received a phone call from my ex-step-father (someone I’ve only seen/heard from a handful of times in the past 15 years) and he needs someone to watch his son after school. Long and short of it, I only agreed because the boy has been badly abused by his mother and if G can’t find reliable, safe child-care, she’s going to try to get custody of K. So I agreed. I can’t sleep at night thinking that K would be going back into such a situation. I started caring for him a few weeks ago. It has been a major adjustment. There are some behavioral problems that we’re dealing with, but he’s shaping up well enough. I think he just needs the structure.

In the middle of all this, I get a phone call that, Wee man has been accepted into pre-school. I just sat and bawled. I cried off and on all day long. But he’s excited and he’s wanting to go, so we’re letting him go. He has his backpack ready, and he’s already visited with the teachers and he seems to be soaking it all up like a sponge. So I’ll have a whole new schedule to keep now. I’ll have all this free time and I’m clueless on how to use it.  This whole time, I would daydream of all the wondrous things I’d accomplish if he were in daycare or pre-school and now that he’s going, I just want him to stay home.

We’ll see how this unfolds. I’m hoping to be able to dedicate more time to this blog. We’ll see. 🙂

Goodbye 2011…Hello 2012! :D

This is the last day of 2011. I hope the past year went well for everyone. I know my year went by fast. It had some good moments and some bad moments, but overall, it was a grand year. It has left me feeling more blessed than when I came into it. 🙂

I’ve been seeing all over internet, countdown lists and best of’s. I don’t have any such list.  I made some accomplishments this year. I was able to complete a large homemade Christmas present. It took me the majority of the year to make it, but it was made and it is being well loved right now. I’ve been very experimental in the kitchen. Thankfully with successes…most of the time. No one’s been hospitalized this year, which is a bonus because for the last few years, SOMEONE’S been in the hospital in my family at one point or other. So overall the year has been really great to me and my family. I can only pray that the coming year will be even better.

I’ve also been seeing a lot of resolutions or “non-resolutions”. I’ve thought about 2012 and all that I want to see in it. So I’ve made a short list of things I want to see and/or do through-out the coming year.

  • I want to create more gifts for the coming Christmas and cut down our cost even more.
  • I want to grow more spiritually. I want to help my family grow spiritually as well.
  • I’m going to start homeschooling my son this year. He just turned 3 and he’s learning his numbers and letters already. I already found a local co-op for him to attend once a week. We start on Tuesday. I’m VERY nervous and excited about this!
  • I want to work on my physical health and well-being. Which this has been a work in progress slowly but surely over the last couple of years. I can say I’m healthier today than I was 4 years ago. 🙂 Yay!
  • I want to be more gracious and peaceful leaving 2012 than I am walking into it.

There you have it. My big expectations list for 2012. I think it is a very doable list. 🙂

I hope that everyone has a safe transition from 2011 to 2012. I hope that you are able to accomplish all that you set out to do for the new year.

So what are some of your resolutions or non-resolutions?

Christmas has come and gone…

Warm fuzzy Christmas bear.

Birthdays, Christmas and more birthdays have come and gone. It’s been an insane month with everything.  We have 3 birthdays in the month of December, plus there is Christmas and New Years Eve. Oh and between the Mr’s birthday and Nathan’s, we all came down with the oh-so-wicked stomach virus. Nathan came down with it first, then the two of us a couple of days later. THEN it went to my Mom’s house. It was really rough. But thankfully, we all felt better by Christmas weekend.

That was a good thing because that weekend was so busy. It started with Nathan’s birthday. And though we had a big party with friends in November, we still had him a small family birthday party for him here at the house. We had cake and presents. 🙂 He really seemed to have a good time. Then there was Christmas Eve festivities. And finally, there was Christmas Day. I hosted this year, so we had a house full! It was great. Everyone seemed to enjoy their gifts and the food and the company of everyone else. 🙂

New Years is fast approaching, that means that is the season of good intentions called resolutions. I have projects that I’m working on throughout the year to gear up for next Christmas. I was woefully negligent on that this year. I did finish my BIG Christmas present. My niece got her lap blanket that I crocheted. So I can count that as a FINISH! YES! However, I truly stink because I didn’t get a picture of it before I gave it to her. DOH! Oh well. 🙂 I know I made it and so does she. 🙂

Oh big question…how do you put linkie things in the sidebar? Because I’m CLUELESS!

A funny conversation…

Tonight we were eating second day chili. (Don’t you agree it is better the second time around?) And the Mr. and I were talking and he made the comment that he’d “gotten fat”. This is very far from the truth and I told him so. To that he snorted.  Sigh. So I asked him if I should just stop cooking. So I’m curious…is it a backwards compliment? Oh well, I’ll take it as a good thing…my cooking…not his feeling that he’s gotten fat. (He really isn’t fat…he’s awesome!)

So, do you have a similar problem in your home?

Third Birthday Party

Nathan’s birthday isn’t until December 23rd. And though I know November 12th is pretty early to be having his birthday, once Thanksgiving hits, getting friends together to celebrate his birthday will be very hard for us to accomplish. So we went to our local McDonald’s to have his birthday party. They have an indoor playland that my son LOVES to play in, and it allows the kids to run and play and work off the sugar rush that they get from the cupcakes.

...blowing out his candle

This year we didn’t have near the turn out that we thought that we would with the various bugs running around, but it never stopped my son from having an absolute blast. He ran and played so much that he passed out in the car on the way home.  He’s enjoyed his presents, his friends, and his party. And in the end that’s what matters most.

We still do a small cake and party each year on his birthday. Because it IS his birthday. We give him gifts on that day and we enjoy the anniversary of the day he decided to meet us. 🙂

Next year though, we’re going to have a party with his friends in June. This will allow him to get and enjoy some summer presents instead of getting everything that will work inside. This will also help us out, because we’re one of those families that most everyone’s birthday is at the end of November through the entirety of December. So that is a LOT of planning, gift giving and busyness on top of the madness that is Thanksgiving and Christmas.

How do you handle Christmas birthdays?

30 Days of Thankfulness Day 13

...only by Grace...

Day 13…I’m not new to the church scene. I’m not new to praise and worship, though I will be honest, I had turned my back on it for a long time. Then I came back to it, then I felt shame because I wasn’t the “christian” that I thought I should be. To be honest, though I’m not new to the “scene”, I’m completely incompetent. I’m not great at praying, but I’m working on it. I say what’s on my mind and in my heart and that’s all I can do. And I’ve had some issues going on lately, and it’s been serious enough to warrant a doctor and a battery of tests to be done. And as I mentioned in my “Day 7” grateful post, my doctor has been really awesome at taking me seriously and is doing what she can to figure out what’s going on.  In my past, I was diagnosed with PCOS and this isn’t something that “goes away”. It doesn’t go into remission and it doesn’t NOT affect you for the rest of your life. And after all the tests and ultrasounds, she could NOT find any evidence of having it at all. Which is bizarre. She said she’d not say that I don’t have it, but she’d say that at this point in my life it’s as though it’s in remission. If it could be called that. So that’s exciting!

So I’m sure you’re asking what does this have to do with God’s grace? Simple…see…it is ONLY by His Grace that all these tests are coming back good. And it’s by His Grace that I even got pregnant to begin with…(fertility issue, birth control, class D medications, condoms BECAUSE of the class D medications, and so forth and so on).  And since having had him, everything has gotten VERY normal. Even at almost 3 years later, it’s NORMAL …well…mostly normal. With the exception of this completely opposite problem, I feel that this is truly divinely given and it has only been by His Grace that I’ve gotten nothing but good news.

What has you grateful today?

30 Days of Thankfulness Days 7-12


Day 7… I’m grateful for my ob/gyn. She actually listens to me without brushing me off as being over-exaggerating or overly worrisome. Which is comforting. And through her we’ve assessed what the issue could be, and we’ve taken steps and tests to narrow down the possibilities. If it weren’t for her, I’d be under the FALSE assumption (because we expect our doctors and medical professionals to KNOW what they’re talking about) that it was just because I was aging. Comes to find out, regardless of which issue it COULD be, it is a very serious situation. So I’m grateful that I’m comfortable enough to just call her and she fits me into her schedule and she doesn’t blow me off.

Day 8…I’m grateful to new friends. A new friend of mine came over and took my son and I out for dinner and a movie. It was great fun. She’s a wonderful gal and my son positively loves her.  He really loved the movie too. Now every time we pass by the theater he’s asking “Puss -n- Boots on?”

Day 9… I’m grateful for old friends. These people have been through the ringer with me. They have been there when I needed hugs, cheers, and guidance. Without these few wonderful people, my life would be so bleak. I love them all so dearly.

Day 10…I’m beyond grateful for my wonderfully comfortable bed. It’s warm when need be, cool when it needs to be cool. It’s supportive and soft all at the same time. No wonder I love going to bed and I fall asleep as soon as I get there and I get a solid 8 or more hours sleep at night. Beds like mine should be against the law! 😀

Day 11… It’s Veterans Day. And I’m very grateful to the men and women who have enlisted in our Armed Forces and fight to protect our freedoms and our way of life. And no matter how they feel about the reasons to leave, they do their duty and they go. But I’m not just grateful to the men and women who are enlisted. I’m beyond grateful to their families and loved ones. And it’s times like these, while they’re deployed and fighting wars, that they need to be remembered and uplifted. They’re hearts are overseas with their loved ones.

Day 12… Today, I’m grateful for red velvet cupcakes. Today we had my son’s 3rd birthday party.  And since he loves Spiderman so, I made him some red velvet cupcakes with blue frosting with webs etched into them. I thought they looked really cute. He loved them. That’s evident by the mess that was on his face after having eaten one. (I’ll post more about his birthday tomorrow night. It’s time to clear up the house some tonight and go to bed. There’s church tomorrow morning!)

So what are you grateful for?

30 Days of Thankfulness Day 6

For the past almost 3 years, there hasn’t been a solid day that I’ve spent relaxing. There have been many days that I’ve had some time during the day, but not many where my obligations were so few that I could actually sit down and watch a movie or two.  And yesterday I still had my daily obligations of straightening and cooking and such, but I didn’t have to run to the store or doctors appointments or to family. I was going to go to church yesterday morning, however, Nathan being sick prevented us from going. So all of us spent the day piled up on the couch, cuddling and watching movies and covering up under the blankets.

I do believe that Nathan appreciated what time he spent on the couch with us, though that NEVER amounts to a long time at one setting. And though I did run to the store last evening, it was absolutely wonderful and refreshing to have a day where I wasn’t being pulled in all directions. It’s even more amazing that it was when I needed it most. I have had a stressful week and it came to a head today.  But that is a blog entry for another day. 🙂 I’m just ever so glad that I was able to enjoy my day.

30 Days of Thankfulness Day 5

Lil man concentrating on something

I think I mentioned somewhere that Nathan has asthma. It’s allergy related and unfortunately we can never get rid of the source of his allergy. 😦 He’s allergic to dust mites both carcass and fecal matter. And though I’d love to live in a sterile environment so he won’t have to deal with it, that is impossible. There’s dust everywhere. So we do what we can to keep it calm, which involves medicines, sprays, and wiping everything down more frequently than otherwise. The worst times for these flareups for him tend to be in the mid to late fall time. Just as everything cools off and we have to turn the heat on. It seems to stir something up. It’s been getting cooler at night lately. And we’ve been running our heater in the evening times. On top of this, he had to get his annual flu shot this past week. I know people avoid the flu shots because they don’t want to get the flu, and I’ll be honest, I don’t tend to get it myself. But, all things considering with his asthma, it’s important that he get it. (And I know all about the debate about vaccinations and I’m not open for discussion on the topic. You do what you feel is necessary for your child and I’ll do what I feel is necessary for mine, no judgements.)

So the last few days, he’s had a very runny nose and just not felt good in general. Normally, he’s running from the moment he wakes up until the moment he goes to sleep. Rarely will he nap in between times. So getting him to slow down and just sit for more than 30 seconds is hard to do. But when he’s not feeling great, we pile up on the couch and drink hot chocolate (for me)/chocolate milk (for him) and watch cartoons and read books and just cuddle under the afghan.  And it is these rare moments with them that I am ever so grateful for. I know these days are numbered. I know soon enough he’ll be too cool for hugs and kisses, let alone cuddles from his Mom. He’ll be wanting the car and resenting me even asking him when I should expect him home. And though I hate that he’s sick, I REALLY wished times like these would last forever.

30 Days of Thankfulness Day 4

For as far back as I can remember, I wanted to work. I wanted to be a CEO or a manager of a hotel. I wanted to travel and I wanted to be unencumbered. (see this is how I saw husbands and children) This mentality continued through high school and on into college. Actually, though the best laid plans of mice and men go, it didn’t always go as I’d planned it. Things happened that prevented me from continuing college. Then I was needed at home to help take care of things. Then as I worked harder and harder, I made too much money to receive help to go to school, but not nearly enough to pay my own way. Such is life. I’m not complaining about it, it just is what it is. Years go by, and I find out that I have PCOS which is a very serious fertility disorder. It was explained to me that mine, in particular, didn’t allow me to ovulate. And I’ll be honest, I was mad about that. I was really angry because my choice was now taken away from me. But eventually, I decided that there were millions (well, ok, maybe not millions, but I’m sure there are a whole bunch!) of kids out there that would need someone to love them. So one day, when I was ready I’d be ever so happy to adopt one and love him/her with all my heart.  So as the story goes…

Girl meets boy….and he felt the same as the girl. He wasn’t particularly interested in having children but if he ever changed his mind, he’d be more than happy to adopt. (You see, boy also had a fertility issue.) Fast forward 2 years, we find out that we’re expecting our first child. In utter amazement, I sat there and watched the ultrasound images on the screen and watched this little person moonwalk in my belly.

Fast forward another 3 years, our son has had some issues. He has asthma and allergies and he has mild seizures. But he’s so precocious and sweet and smart. And his Dad works very hard and long hours so I can stay home with him. And for that I’m ever so grateful. So this girl, who never dreamed of having a family of her own, couldn’t imagine any other life than this one. I couldn’t imagine working during these early years. Now mind you, sometimes I wished I could get away. But on days that I get great big smiles and lots of hugs and kisses and crazy stories about Bunny eating his cheerios, those are the days that I am glad I get to sit at home with him and grow with him. (Those days are every day…for the most part.)

So on this 4th day, I’m ever so grateful that I’m given the chance to stay home with my little boy.

(Yes I know it seems like I’m a day behind. But I spend the day deciding on what I’m going to be grateful for, and THEN I write about it. Instead of writing about it before the day comes.)